There will be at least 4 wires on your relay. Two of which will be your coil, and the other two will be your set of 'normally open' contacts. One of the normally open contacts will have power all the time, the other will have power when the coil is energized. To find which is which, you can use a multi-meter on the ohm setting. The two terminals that show continuity, but have resistance will be the coil. If there is more than 4 terminals, for example we'll use 5, then you'll have two terminals that show continuity with resistance, two that show continuity with no resistance (the same reading as if you touched the meter leads together, and two that show no continuity.
We'll call the coil terminals 'a' and 'b'. 'a' being the power for the coil and 'b' will be the ground.
The other terminals will be '1' '2' and '3'.
With no power to the coil, this will be true
Ohming from 1 to 2 will show continuity with no resistance; like you touched the meter's leads together.
Ohming 1 to 3 will show no continuity.
When you apply power to 'a' and a good ground to 'b', these will be true
Ohming 1 to 2 will show no continuity
Ohming 1 to 3 will show continuity with no resistance.
Regardless if there is power or not, there will never be continuity between 2 and 3.
You can do all of this, or just spend a few bucks and buy a new relay...lol