Well I learned that the solenoids are controlled via grounding at the PCM. So putting 12V+ would have done no good.. but that being said I checked my ign+ to the transmission and it was good. I tried to ground the 2-3 solenoid but no luck, it wouldn't click. So then I tried to ground the 1-2 solenoid and voila it clicks. So I checked voltage passing through the 1-2 solenoid and got nearly fully ignition voltage reading (about 11.8 to 11.9 bc my batteries are a bit low + resistance of the solenoid.) Next I checked the voltage coming out of the 2-3 solenoid and it reads 1.80V so I'm pretty sure that solenoid is junk.
I would have thought of it sooner but the video of the truck I saw before the engine was dismounted was only 30 seconds long and it just drove around the property. Probably never over 30mph. And he told me no guarantees on the transmission.
In any case I might leave the toggle connected so I can manually get into 1st gear if I need it, otherwise 2nd will be good enough for the moment.
We had a change of plans with family memyers having surgery and cancer not going into remission so we are going 50 miles north to a campground for about 430/mo until all that is sorted out. I'll get some work soon and order a solenoid and figure out how to change it without anyone figuring out I'm dropping the pan at a campground lol.
Next I can figure out if the TOSS is giving a good signal to the PCM or not ha.