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Send them back, and get a used OEM set. If the holes are not pretty close they are going to fight you the whole way. If you don't run the reinforcement pieces the door skin will eventually crack from the vibrations.
Where are your old doors?
Well nuts are similar to Jack nuts. They are rubber with a brass nut insert. When you tighten the bolt the brass expands the rubber out on the inside of the hole.