A motor with a soul

[PromiseKeeper]

Thought you guys might enjoy these rules for dating my daughter. One of my daughter's first boyfriends was handed a copy of this and was told, "you can run but you can't hide!"

[thirsty]

I like the part in rule #2 that says "If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter's body. I will remove them."

[thirsty]

One of my daughter's first boyfriends was handed a copy of this and was told, "you can run but you can't hide!"

This reminds me of a similar experience some young fellas had in my living room one day.
We are big on deer hunting. We don't sit in stands and wait we track them. Not after work though because there is just not enough time. Given any amount of time though we will go out and try and make something happen. So I got out of work a few minutes early one day during hunting season and decided I had time to go out. When I pulled into my driveway I see a strange car parked there. Rush in to get changed and head right out. The car was a new guy that wanted to take my daughter out. My wife knew I was on my way so she made them wait and ask me. When I was asked on my way down the hall my response was where are you going and when will you be back? I got the typical teenager reply that didn't answer my question. I come into the living room changed and set my gun down on the sofa while I was putting on my swampers. Daughter says well can we go? I look at the boy and say depends. Where are you going and when will you be home. He tells me around town and not too late. Then I hear well can we go now? At this time I am putting on my knife and glare at the kid again and say depends!!!!!! Now I really want to get headed out into the woods and time is ticking. He tells me where they are going to be and before he could say what time he planned on having her back I picked up my rifle and walked towards him at the door and told him that if I didn't kill a deer tonight then I will be home 1 hour after sunset and I expected to see them then and we could talk more about it then, don't be late, don't make me come looking for you because I will find you. Then walked out the door. He had her home by the time I got home and we had a talk about rules. My wife and daughter still laugh about that poor kid that thought I was a wacko and might take him out back and shoot him.

[bake74]

Thought you guys might enjoy these rules for dating my daughter. One of my daughter's first boyfriends was handed a copy of this and was told, "you can run but you can't hide!"

     That promise keeper is funny.
     When my daughter was 16 and started to date I had 1rule for her, I had to meet every boy before she went out.  Now I am 6'1" and at the time lifted weights, I have a wide shoulder base to begin with.  I grew up in a bad part of town and developed a " don't mess with me look "  I had the same talk to all of them.
     The funny thing is my nick name around her school and all the young men who wanted to take her out was " the hulk".
     My daughter and I laugh still to this day about it, because she tried to tell all of them that I was just a big soft teddy bear ( I am till you piss me off ).  They didn't believe her.  She finally realized what I was doing with them, like any dad would do, threaten them with bodily harm.  She could never convince them otherwise though.

[PromiseKeeper]

All joking aside, guys, there is one thing here that stands out. There is a clear message to our daughters that we love them. We insist on them being treated with respect and as the ladies that they are. No exceptions and no excuses.

There is a young lady that lived down the road from me. She pretty much grew up with my kids and I took them all to school every day. At way too young an age, she lost her Dad. I always told her that she was family and whatever she needed, she could come to us. I also told her that I wanted to interview her potential boyfriends. One day she surprised us with a knock on the door. She had a young man with her. I invited them into the kitchen and talked with them for a while. I finally asked her what I could do for her. Her reply? " I brought my boyfriend for the interview!" I was more than glad to respectfully talk to him about how special this young lady is, how he was expected to treat her, and assured him that I would be watching. A few weeks later, I was driving by her house and saw them come out and get into his car. I pulled in the driveway behind him, walked up, knocked on the window and asked if he had remembered our conversation. His stuttered something that sounded like "yyyyyeee...ssss    ssssir" I told him that I had just observed him letting one of my girls get into his car without him opening the door for her. He hadn't treated her like we had agreed. I glanced  at the girl (nameless in this instance to protect her privacy) She was absolutely beaming to know someone valued her that much. A week later she told me she had broken up with him because he didn't measure up! You never know what kind of an impression you're making when you simply do and expect the right things.

[Blazin]

My ex girlfriend had two daughters. Before the oldest one was to leave for prom we had to do the picture thing etc. At that point I had only been seeing her for about 8 months, so the boys at school didn't really know me just that I had really long blond hair,drove old cars, and trucks. About half way through the picture taking Martha said something about looking like a gentleman. I said as long as he acts like one there shouldn't be any issues. He kinda gave me a funny look. Few seconds later the girls wanted a picture together. I set my hands down on his shoulders with a little weight behind them, leaned forward, and whispered into his ear. " You will be a gentleman tonight, hands above her waist, eye contact, no oogling her body, etc. I have no problem going back to prison if it comes to protecting her! " After that he looked like he was about to wet himself in the rest of the pictures!
About a year later her sister is going to homecoming dance. The boy has his older sister drive them. He comes inside when he gets there. He chats, seems like a nice boy. I didn't say much just gave him the look. Then he says, " so I hear your into 4 wheeling etc. I said yes I have a Blazer etc. He asks where do you go with it. I reply " Way way out in the woods, out where you could dump a body, and it would never be found! Alot of old deep wells out in the woods round heah! "
That was pretty much the end of that conversation!

[Tx_Phil]

I'm glad I'm not the only one making life hard for these young guys.

About this time last year my then 17yr daughter's new-ish boyfriend came by the house.  I'd met him once before but they were driving off just as I came in from work so not much time to chat. This time however I was in the garage boning out a deer.  He comes strolling up and says hi and we chat a minute. He asks what I'm doing just as I pull a hind quarter out of the icebox. I handed it to him and said "here hold this".  I then had him follow me to the workbench where I had my knives all laid out and ready to go. I showed him how you could see all of the muscles and connecting tendons and such and how important it was to understand how this all worked.  When he asked why it was important I said, it makes you a better killer!  Then with a couple of quick cuts I reached in and pulled the entire leg bone out intact. He was sheepishly white at that point and said something like wow that was quick.  I said, not really.  It's much easier to do this on a human than a deer.  I thought he was going to pass out right there.  I asked him what were their plans for the evening to which he replied "just hang out and stuff".  I stopped, looked over at him and said "I expect a better answer than that young man". He stuttered a little and said, "well I was planning on getting a burger and then going to the movies but I don't really feel like eating right now".  I told him that was fine and to be home by 11pm.  He said yes sir just as my daughter walk out of the house.  Just as shes walking up I tell him "boy I expect you to treat my baby girl with the respect she deserves, like a lady should be treated, do you understand me?"  He said, yes sir I understand completely.  My daughter was grinning ear to ear and then fussed at me to trying to be mean and tough. 

That was over a year ago and he's in the army now but they are still seeing each other.  I guess I didn't do as good a job as you guys at chasing him off.

[Rich84]

I'm reading your stories about our beloved daughters and can't help but think of all the families in Newtown, Ct. that will not get to have that conversation...
I live one town over..And that Principle was my son's in elementary school before she left for Newtown. All I can say is don't take all the little moments that we have with these kids for granted and don't sweat the "little things".

Be Well.. 

[slammed79]

That is the second greatest thing I've seen today!