You can download software for your laptop and but the 12 pin ALDL cable to not only read DTC's but to read datastream. Winaldl, obd, etc...just google it
http://www.aldlcable.com/Which specific vacuum hoses are you trying to locate? The VECI label under the hood should have an emissions routing diagram.
I agree with Blazin, duals with Cats if your state requires them. It will not throw off your computer as long as you have the O2 sensor in one of the headers.
For your spark plugs use AC Delco R43TS. The gap is .035" that's thirty five thousandths of an inch. It's the distance from the ground electrode to the center electrode. You can use a plug gapper or feeler gauge to verify the gap. All should be parallel and equal distance before installation. Always start the spark plugs in by hand not with a socket. You can use an old spark plug wire boot to thread them in nice and easy to avoid cross threading.
The flexible hose coming off of the exhaust manifold to the air cleaner if for early fuel evaporation (EFE) it's called a stove pipe. The stove pipe works with a thermostatic aircleaner so when the engine is cold it draws air off of the hot exhaust manifold to prevent the fuel from condensing back into a liquid during start up and cold climates. once the thermostatic air cleaner stops receiving vacuum through a TVSV (Thermostatic vacuum switching valve) it draws air from tha aircleaner snorkel instead of off of the manifold. If you are putting on headers ditch the stove pip and thermostatic air cleaner.
I agree with Blazin again, check your mounts and your u-joints. Check your leaf springs and bushings also.
As far as it stalling you need to do your basics, tune up, set the timing, check all the stuff I already recommended in the other post. If you have the ability to read your datastream that will really help so you aren't just throwing parts at it.